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How to Add Your Wedding Website to Your Invitation Suite

Tips & TricksJenn JurfComment

Being in the heart of Silicon Valley, tech-filled weddings is no new fete for me! Gabe and I are also having a destination wedding and with the amount of information we want to provide our guests in advance, you could easily write a novel (I’m being a little dramatic over here…)

My point is that wedding websites are a big thing right now but there’s also a proper way to include them on your invitation suite. This is where this post will come in handy!

Where to add your website?

Your details card is the best place to share your website. We do not recommend adding your website to your wedding invitation as it is a formal and keepsake item. We also don't recommend adding it to your R.S.V.P. card as guests send that back to you and will no longer have the URL.

Your website can be on it’s own card, like this example:

 
 

Or you can add it to the bottom of another details card, like this example:

 
 

I hope this article was helpful when preparing your wedding invitation suite. For other tips, make sure to check out our Wedding Invitation Etiquette Guide. Feel free to also leave a comment with questions or contact me and we can chat!

xo

How to Address Your Wedding Invitation Envelopes

Tips & TricksJenn JurfComment

Properly addressing wedding envelopes doesn’t need to be a complete nightmare. I often receive questions from couples about how to properly address envelopes, so I’ve put together this easy guide to help you!

Before we dive in, here are a few general rules about formatting:

  • Use formal titles and full names of your guests

  • Don’t use abbreviations in the address. Spell out words like Street, Apartment and the State.

Below are specific examples of how to formally address your guests:

Married Couple

With the same last name
“Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Doe”
Or
“Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan and Jane Doe”

With different last names
“Mr. Jonathan Doe and Mrs. Jane Dodson”
These names should both be on the same line however, space restriction may require the second name to be on the second line.

Unmarried couple living together

“Mr. Jonathan Doe and Ms. Jane Dodson”
These names should both be on the same line however, space restriction may require the second name to be on the second line.

Families

“Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Doe and Family”
or
“The Doe Family”
or
Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Doe
Jane, Michael and Stephanie

The latter example would be appropriate if you are opting for only 1 outer envelope rather than the inner and outer envelope combination. With this option, children should be on line 2 and space permitting, line 3.

Same Sex Couples

With the same last name
“Mr. and Mr. Jonathan Doe”
Or
“Mr. and Mr. Jonathan and Michael Doe”

Inner and Outer Envelopes for Your Wedding Invitations

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The inner and outer envelope combination is more commonly seen in traditional and classic wedding invitation suites. The outer envelope is typically formally addressed to the household followed by the full address whereas, the inner envelope can be more casual and mentions every guest invited by name, including children.

Outer Envelope

Inner Envelope

So, what’s so great about inner envelopes and why should you have them for your wedding invitations?

1 | Add a Layer of Protection

If you’ve sent or received anything in the mail before, you know that the post office adds marks and barcodes throughout transit in order to sort and deliver the mail to it’s appropriate location. Sometimes dings hit the edges of the envelopes or in a worst case scenario, the envelope snags on a piece of machinery and rips!

Enter the inner envelope, an extra layer of protection around your beautiful invitations that is untouched by the post office.

2 | Manage Your Guest Count

The inner and outer envelope combination is also great if you’re trying to manage your guest count. Since the inner envelope will be addressed to every guest invited by name, there is no room for misinterpretation on who is and isn’t invited.

3 | Make it Personal

Since the inner envelopes are more private, it’s also an opportunity to address the recipients in a more personal, familiar tone. For example, “Aunt Jane” or “Grandma”.

Addressing for the outer envelopes is always formal, using titles and the formal way to address the household as a whole. For example, “Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Doe and Family”.


As always, I’m happy to answer any questions in the comments below!

Frequently Asked Question:
Q: What envelopes are the envelope liners assembled in?
A: The inner envelope

 

The Basics: Wedding Invitations

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It’s only fitting to kick off the blog by starting with the basics. Over the next few weeks, I will give a breakdown of each of the individual cards that is included in your invitation suite so that you can understand its significance. This will ensure that you’re adequately prepared to send out the perfect invites!

Your invitations are your guests’ first introduction to your wedding day. It sets the tone for style, formality and gives your guests a glimpse into what to expect on your big day. Your invitations are also a keepsake item that you’ll look back on when you’re older and share with future generations.

Above all, your invitations need to be practical. They communicate to your guests the necessary details for attending your wedding. Every word and every line has some sort of significance and this article will break that down for you.

Your Invitations, Line by Line

The Host Line

The host line is usually the first line(s) on the invitation and explains who is hosting the event. Whether it’s the couple themselves, one or both families, or all together, it’s proper etiquette to state who is hosting/inviting guests to the wedding.

Here are a few wording examples:

Together with their families

Mr. & Mrs. Jonathon Doe
Request the pleasure of your company
At the marriage of their daughter

Mr. & Mrs. Jonathon Doe
Together with Mr. & Mrs. Jonathon Doe
Request the pleasure of your company
At the marriage of their children

The request line can be done in two variations:
"Request the honor of your presence" when the ceremony is held in a place of worship
"Request the pleasure of your company" when the ceremony is held elsewhere


The Couple

The couple’s names will follow the host line. It’s traditional etiquette for the woman’s name to go first, followed by the man’s. For same sex couples, you can do it alphabetically. It’s a personal preference to include the first, middle and/or last names. Formal invitations will include all 3 names whereas, more informal invitations will include only first names.


Ceremony Date and Time

The ceremony date and time are shared on the invitations. Formal invitations spell out every word whereas informal invitations use numbers.

For example:

Saturday, the Tenth of August
Two thousand eighteen
at four o'clock in the afternoon

or

August 10, 2018 at 4pm

You're welcome to do a combination of the two if you're looking for a happy medium.

Here’s a tip for timing! If you decide to spell out the time of day and want to include “...in the morning/afternoon/evening”, here’s a reference:

Morning - up until 11:59am
Afternoon - from 12:00pm - 4:59pm
Evening - anything after 5:00pm


Location

The ceremony location details include the venue name, city and state address. Formal invitations include the full address on a details card whereas, more informal invitations include the full address on the invitation.

For example:

City Hall
San Francisco, California

City Hall
1 Dr Carlton B Goodlett Place
San Francisco, California 94102


Attire (optional)

When requesting specific attire, include the details on the bottom right corner of the invitation with a simple “Black Tie” or “Cocktail Attire” note.

If you need to elaborate on specific clothing items, this should be done on a details card. For example, “Women are not encouraged to wear heels as the ceremony will be held on grass.”


Well, what about…

This is where the wonderful world of details cards come into play. The above items are the only thing that should be included on your invitation so if you’d like to communicate other details, they should be done so separately. More on details cards in a few weeks!

Every couple is different, which makes every invitation unique in it’s own way. Your invitations should represent you as a couple and clearly communicate the style and feel of the overall wedding day.

I have addressed the most common questions I receive from clients when figuring out how to word their invitations. I’d be happy to answer any additional questions you may have with regard to wording your invitations in the comments below!

Mastered your invitation? Let's move on to your R.S.V.P. card (coming soon!)