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3 Ways to Manage Guest Count

Tips & TricksJenn JurfComment

One of the biggest concerns I hear from clients is how to make it clear that only specific members of a family are invited or that single guests simply can’t bring a plus one. It’s nothing personal but your venue has restrictions so let’s make it easy to manage expectations and make it clear on your invitation who is and is not invited.


1 | Address Your Invitations Correctly

Whether your opting for a more formal or semi-formal addressing format, the name(s) written on the envelope are the only guest(s) that are invited to your wedding.

For example, if you write:

Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Doe
1234 North Main Street
Walnut Creek, California 94597

Then this is implied that only Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Doe are invited. Any other family members not mentioned on the envelope are not invited.

If you are intending to invite the entire family, then you can either address the envelope as:

Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Doe and Family
The Doe Family
Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Doe
Elizabeth, Jackson and Michael Doe

To include the names of the other family members.

This same rule applies to plus ones. If two individuals are in a committed relationship though not married, it’s appropriate to address both individuals by full name on the invitation.

If you address the envelope as “Mr. Jonathan Doe and Guest” and the couple breaks up before your wedding, then Jonathan Doe can bring another guest, one who you may not have intended to invite to your wedding.

It’s best to be as specific as possible when addressing your envelopes.

2 | Add This to Your RSVP Card

By simply adding the line:

We have reserved ___ seats in your honor

to your RSVP card, you can clearly state how many seats have been reserved for your invited party.

3 | Go Bold

I strongly recommend adhering to my first two suggestions before writing on the card that your event is adults only. However, if you’re still concerned, about it being clear that children are not invited, you can add the following line to a details card:

While we love your children, this is an adults-only celebration.
Although we love to watch your children run and play, this is an adults only kind of day.

I must emphasize again to only use this if you’re concerned the other two recommendations would simply not work for your invited guests.

As always, feel free to contact me with any questions or leave a comment below!