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How to Add Your Wedding Website to Your Invitation Suite

Tips & TricksJenn JurfComment

Being in the heart of Silicon Valley, tech-filled weddings is no new fete for me! Gabe and I are also having a destination wedding and with the amount of information we want to provide our guests in advance, you could easily write a novel (I’m being a little dramatic over here…)

My point is that wedding websites are a big thing right now but there’s also a proper way to include them on your invitation suite. This is where this post will come in handy!

Where to add your website?

Your details card is the best place to share your website. We do not recommend adding your website to your wedding invitation as it is a formal and keepsake item. We also don't recommend adding it to your R.S.V.P. card as guests send that back to you and will no longer have the URL.

Your website can be on it’s own card, like this example:


Or you can add it to the bottom of another details card, like this example:


I hope this article was helpful when preparing your wedding invitation suite. For other tips, make sure to check out our Wedding Invitation Etiquette Guide. Feel free to also leave a comment with questions or contact me and we can chat!


How to Properly Write the Date and Time on Wedding Invitations

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Wedding invitation etiquette can be a little tricky sometimes and that’s why we’re here to help! Today, we’re sharing some guidelines to help your properly write out the date and time on your wedding invitations.

  1. Only the date of the week and month are capitalized, unless the design has a unique format (i.e. all capitalized or all lowercase text).

  2. The year is all lowercase. Wedding invitations traditionally do not include “and.” For example, “two thousand eighteen” is preferred over “two thousand and eighteen,” though both are grammatically correct.

  3. The line regarding time is all lowercase. If your ceremony is being held at 4:30, use the phrase “half-past” rather than “four-thirty.”

  4. The time of the day varies based on your ceremony time:
    … in the morning - up until 11:50am
    … in the afternoon - from 12:00pm - 4:59pm
    … in the evening - anything after 5:00pm

I hope this information is helpful when creating the wording for your wedding invitations. Feel free to also check out our wedding invitation etiquette guide for more suggestions. As always, if you have any questions, feel free to contact me or leave a comment below.


Word Your Invitations Like a Total Pro!

Tips & TricksJenn JurfComment

Ahh the day is finally here! Actually, it was here a few weeks ago but I can finally take a moment to draw your attention to the new and improved etiquette guide and I couldn’t be more excited about it!

I’ve been working for months on iterating on the etiquette guide to cover more frequently asked questions about wording your wedding invitations!

My goal for this guide was to provide you the resources to word your invitations like a total pro!

Here’s a rundown of what this guide entails:

  • The anatomy of a wedding invitation suite - laying out all the cards and understanding what cards to include in your personalized invitations

  • The breakdown of the wedding invitation - an overview, line by line about what is mentioned on the wedding invitation itself (and what shouldn’t be included)

  • A more detailed explanation and examples of how to format your names, date, time, etc. on your wedding invitation

  • A break down of the corresponding RSVP cards, details cards and envelopes with wording and layout suggestions

I really hope this guide is helpful! I’m constantly iterating on the guide so if there is something I missed or you have any other questions, please feel free to contact me!

How to Address Your Wedding Invitation Envelopes

Tips & TricksJenn JurfComment

Properly addressing wedding envelopes doesn’t need to be a complete nightmare. I often receive questions from couples about how to properly address envelopes, so I’ve put together this easy guide to help you!

Before we dive in, here are a few general rules about formatting:

  • Use formal titles and full names of your guests

  • Don’t use abbreviations in the address. Spell out words like Street, Apartment and the State.

Below are specific examples of how to formally address your guests:

Married Couple

With the same last name
“Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Doe”
“Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan and Jane Doe”

With different last names
“Mr. Jonathan Doe and Mrs. Jane Dodson”
These names should both be on the same line however, space restriction may require the second name to be on the second line.

Unmarried couple living together

“Mr. Jonathan Doe and Ms. Jane Dodson”
These names should both be on the same line however, space restriction may require the second name to be on the second line.


“Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Doe and Family”
“The Doe Family”
Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Doe
Jane, Michael and Stephanie

The latter example would be appropriate if you are opting for only 1 outer envelope rather than the inner and outer envelope combination. With this option, children should be on line 2 and space permitting, line 3.

Same Sex Couples

With the same last name
“Mr. and Mr. Jonathan Doe”
“Mr. and Mr. Jonathan and Michael Doe”

Kayla & Gabe's Wedding Album

InspirationJenn JurfComment

Finally checking this off my list of the 8,000 things I’ve been wanting to do with my business for years: sharing your pictures!! I don’t know about you but anytime I see wedding photos or videos, I start crying even if I don’t know the people!

I love connecting with my clients during their wedding planning journey and seeing the pictures of their big day as all of the details come together! As a stationery designer, I’m one of the only vendors that isn’t there on the actually wedding day so yeah, you can say I usually experience FOMO.

So starting today, you’ll see a lot more real weddings here on the blog as we feature our amazing clients on their wedding day!

Starting with the beautiful Kayla and Gabe! I worked with Kayla to design her letterpress wedding invitations. They chose the Eucalyptus Minimalist design with digital printing to capture the watercolor eucalyptus and letterpress to create that stunning impression! Their photographer, Sarah Botta, did an incredible job of capturing their wedding day and all of its beautiful moments!


Invitations: Just Jurf
Photography: Sarah Botta Photography
Bridesmaid Dresses: David’s Bridal
Cake: Gateau Distinctive Cakes
Catering: Marriott Ranch
DJ: A2Z Music Factory
Florist: Samantha Greenfield
Groomsmen and Groom Attire: Men’s Wearhouse
Makeup and Hair: Up Do’s for I Do’s
Officiant: Jim Burch

Inner and Outer Envelopes for Your Wedding Invitations

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The inner and outer envelope combination is more commonly seen in traditional and classic wedding invitation suites. The outer envelope is typically formally addressed to the household followed by the full address whereas, the inner envelope can be more casual and mentions every guest invited by name, including children.

Outer Envelope

Inner Envelope

So, what’s so great about inner envelopes and why should you have them for your wedding invitations?

1 | Add a Layer of Protection

If you’ve sent or received anything in the mail before, you know that the post office adds marks and barcodes throughout transit in order to sort and deliver the mail to it’s appropriate location. Sometimes dings hit the edges of the envelopes or in a worst case scenario, the envelope snags on a piece of machinery and rips!

Enter the inner envelope, an extra layer of protection around your beautiful invitations that is untouched by the post office.

2 | Manage Your Guest Count

The inner and outer envelope combination is also great if you’re trying to manage your guest count. Since the inner envelope will be addressed to every guest invited by name, there is no room for misinterpretation on who is and isn’t invited.

3 | Make it Personal

Since the inner envelopes are more private, it’s also an opportunity to address the recipients in a more personal, familiar tone. For example, “Aunt Jane” or “Grandma”.

Addressing for the outer envelopes is always formal, using titles and the formal way to address the household as a whole. For example, “Mr. and Mrs. Jonathan Doe and Family”.

As always, I’m happy to answer any questions in the comments below!

Frequently Asked Question:
Q: What envelopes are the envelope liners assembled in?
A: The inner envelope


How to Address RSVPing Online

Tips & TricksJenn JurfComment

RSVP’ing online has become a hot trend and with good reason! Now more than ever before, couples are paying for their own wedding stationery and budgets are tight. I get it! RSVP’ing online is a great way to still send traditional invitations while saving on your invitation suite.

So how do you go about doing it?

A details card is your go-to! If you’re RSVP’ing online, chances are it’s on your website. My big concern with RSVP’ing online is that people will miss your instructions, so I always recommend making it big and clear that they’re supposed to R.S.V.P. to your wedding online.

Here’s an example of how I would not recommend writing it out on your details card:

“For additional details, including hotel accommodations,
weekend events and to R.S.V.P., please visit our website:

The main reason I don’t recommend this option is because there’s no weight behind RSVP’ing. You could read through that entire section and easily glance over the most important part of the whole paragraph. Some invitation designs also feature typography that’s in all caps so the R.S.V.P. would blend in even more.



This example is still an acceptable way to address RSVP’ing online however, I would recommend putting more weight behind it, similar to this:


Kindly reply on our website
by July 10


For additional details, including hotel accommodations and weekend events, please visit our website: www.carolinaandshawn.com”

By making R.S.V.P. it’s own section, it becomes significant and also provides an opportunity for an R.S.V.P. date. It’s optional to include the website URL in this section as well.

There is still room to fit both the R.S.V.P. and website as their own sections on a small details cards. If you’d like to include any additional details, I would recommend a larger details card.

The Basics: R.S.V.P. Cards

Tips & TricksJenn JurfComment

Last week, we discussed the basics of the wedding invitation with what you should and shouldn’t include on the invitation. Today, I will break down the R.S.V.P. card line by line and give suggestions for supplements that could make your wedding planning process smoother.

Let’s start with the purpose of the R.S.V.P. card. R.S.V.P. stands for the French phrase “Répondez s’il vous plait” meaning “Please respond”. The purpose of the R.S.V.P. card is for your guests to respond with the requested information outlined on the card. Typically, this is regarding whether or not they will attend your wedding, but it can also include meal selections and additional useful details to help you prepare for your wedding day.

Now, let’s break down the R.S.V.P. card, line by line...

Your R.S.V.P. Card, Line by Line

R.S.V.P. Date

Your R.S.V.P. date should be about 4-6 weeks prior to your wedding date. I recommend connecting with your venue on when they need their final numbers by (usually 15-30 days in advance). Take that date and add a full week to allow a buffer to track down anyone who hasn’t R.S.V.P.’d yet.

M Line

The M line is used for the recipients to write their names on the card so that when they return it, you know who it came from. The M signifies the start of your name, for example “Ms. Jane Doe” or “Mr. John Doe”. It’s common to use either “M” or “Name(s)” to address this line. Without this section, it will be difficult to tell who is returning the card.

Meal Selections

Meal selections can be added to any R.S.V.P. card design, if the original design does not already include it. Requesting meal selections is recommended if you’re having a plated reception so that you can communicate to your venue how many guests will require each entree selection.

Meal selections can be written out as “beef”, “chicken”, “fish” or “vegetarian” or we can include animal icons in lieu of the wording. It is not recommended to write out the specific entree details (i.e. Grilled Filet Mignon with Yukon Gold Potatoes, Grilled Asparagus and Port Wine Sauce) on your R.S.V.P. card as the details may change.

When requesting meal selections, we recommend using the statement “please initial an entree selection for each guest,” followed by the selections. It’s important for you to request initials so that when the time comes for place cards, you can include the individual’s meal selection on their place card.

A line regarding dietary and/or allergy restrictions can be added to any R.S.V.P. card.

Managing Guest Count

A big concern I often hear from clients is about making it clear how many guests are included with each invitation. My first suggestion is to make sure the invitation is addressed correctly by writing out each individual name on the envelope.

Another way to manage guest count is to include the following line on your R.S.V.P. card:

“We have reserved ____ seats in your honor”

Before you send out your invitations, you will write in the number of guests (i.e. 2) you intended to include.

Other weekend events

If you’re hosting other weekend events, your R.S.V.P. card is a great way to have your guests R.S.V.P. for those events as well. For example, a rehearsal or welcome dinner and a farewell brunch. We’re happy to design two variations of your R.S.V.P. card to accommodate these additional events.

Song Requests

A fun addition to R.S.V.P. cards is requesting a song to play at the reception by simply adding:

“You’ll get me to dance if you play ____”

This is a great way to get your guests excited and easily create your playlist.

These are items that are typically included on your R.S.V.P. card. As I've mentioned before, every couple is unique and therefore, so is every invitation suite. We're happy to accommodate any other R.S.V.P. requests.

Stay tuned for next week where we will go over details cards!

As always, if you have any questions, please leave them in the comments below!


The Basics: Wedding Invitations

Tips & TricksJenn JurfComment

It’s only fitting to kick off the blog by starting with the basics. Over the next few weeks, I will give a breakdown of each of the individual cards that is included in your invitation suite so that you can understand its significance. This will ensure that you’re adequately prepared to send out the perfect invites!

Your invitations are your guests’ first introduction to your wedding day. It sets the tone for style, formality and gives your guests a glimpse into what to expect on your big day. Your invitations are also a keepsake item that you’ll look back on when you’re older and share with future generations.

Above all, your invitations need to be practical. They communicate to your guests the necessary details for attending your wedding. Every word and every line has some sort of significance and this article will break that down for you.

Your Invitations, Line by Line

The Host Line

The host line is usually the first line(s) on the invitation and explains who is hosting the event. Whether it’s the couple themselves, one or both families, or all together, it’s proper etiquette to state who is hosting/inviting guests to the wedding.

Here are a few wording examples:

Together with their families

Mr. & Mrs. Jonathon Doe
Request the pleasure of your company
At the marriage of their daughter

Mr. & Mrs. Jonathon Doe
Together with Mr. & Mrs. Jonathon Doe
Request the pleasure of your company
At the marriage of their children

The request line can be done in two variations:
"Request the honor of your presence" when the ceremony is held in a place of worship
"Request the pleasure of your company" when the ceremony is held elsewhere

The Couple

The couple’s names will follow the host line. It’s traditional etiquette for the woman’s name to go first, followed by the man’s. For same sex couples, you can do it alphabetically. It’s a personal preference to include the first, middle and/or last names. Formal invitations will include all 3 names whereas, more informal invitations will include only first names.

Ceremony Date and Time

The ceremony date and time are shared on the invitations. Formal invitations spell out every word whereas informal invitations use numbers.

For example:

Saturday, the Tenth of August
Two thousand eighteen
at four o'clock in the afternoon


August 10, 2018 at 4pm

You're welcome to do a combination of the two if you're looking for a happy medium.

Here’s a tip for timing! If you decide to spell out the time of day and want to include “...in the morning/afternoon/evening”, here’s a reference:

Morning - up until 11:59am
Afternoon - from 12:00pm - 4:59pm
Evening - anything after 5:00pm


The ceremony location details include the venue name, city and state address. Formal invitations include the full address on a details card whereas, more informal invitations include the full address on the invitation.

For example:

City Hall
San Francisco, California

City Hall
1 Dr Carlton B Goodlett Place
San Francisco, California 94102

Attire (optional)

When requesting specific attire, include the details on the bottom right corner of the invitation with a simple “Black Tie” or “Cocktail Attire” note.

If you need to elaborate on specific clothing items, this should be done on a details card. For example, “Women are not encouraged to wear heels as the ceremony will be held on grass.”

Well, what about…

This is where the wonderful world of details cards come into play. The above items are the only thing that should be included on your invitation so if you’d like to communicate other details, they should be done so separately. More on details cards in a few weeks!

Every couple is different, which makes every invitation unique in it’s own way. Your invitations should represent you as a couple and clearly communicate the style and feel of the overall wedding day.

I have addressed the most common questions I receive from clients when figuring out how to word their invitations. I’d be happy to answer any additional questions you may have with regard to wording your invitations in the comments below!

Mastered your invitation? Let's move on to your R.S.V.P. card (coming soon!)